Pursuing a religious older woman
Been a long time lurker here... here’s my situation. I’m an American attending medical school abroad. I’m winding down on my first semester, and have gotten a lot of dental work done here (haven’t gone to the dentist for 4 years+ so it was long due). Good thing is that dental care is relatively cheap here compared to the US.
I’ve visited my dentist a good 10+ times throughout the semester, and during the course of my visit she has cooked me food and given it to me to take home... even surprised me w a birthday cake that she baked. I thought she was coming on to me from all the cooking, but then I sort of just wrote it off as her being a really nice person. I later found out that she’s been pretty hardcore religious for the past year... divorced her husband 7 years ago, after that went through 2 bfs of 2 years each, broke off w the last one who was an atheist and is now more in tune w god, blah blah blah. She also finished counseling recently for being addicted to relationships, lol? She’s 37 and I’m 27, knows I’m atheist and like to play poker, doesn’t seem mind that.
She’s invited me over to cook and have dinner w her a few times, but I always turn it down because I either had exams to study for or I’m busy trying to mack on other local girls. Plus, I’m not really into cooking. Earlier this week, we have been emailing each other back and forth a few times and got into a religious debate (unheated debate, just picking each other’s brains). She called me yesterday to tell me that she really enjoyed my last email. We talked a little bit about what we are up to that day, then she had to go because her patient was there. An hour later she called me again and asked if I wanted to come over and cook/ have dinner with her, and I agreed. So I came over and we had dinner and talked for a good 2 hours, eventually it went back to our religious debate... and I’m learning some crazy **** about her. Most notable is that she refuses to ever go on a vacation w any future boyfriends (until they are married of course) because she does not want to be tempted to have sex, because God doesn’t want her to (wtf?). At the same time though, she’s made sexual jokes to me so maybe she’s itching.
Religion is a pretty big part of her life, but she’s not the type to force it on other people. She also claims that she does not have any male friends because she always feels that it is not true friendship because one or the other always wants something more.
I like her/am pretty attracted to her, and wondering what you guys thought of this. Is pursuing a religious girl a lost cause... sex seems nearly impossible, which is required imo for a healthy relationship.
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