Online dating not as it seems
Hello! Please be mindful I was not raised on English so I use English a little weird. People sometimes get confused with my English and take it the wrong way! Sorry! If you feel this post rubbed you the wrong way, please let me know in the replies section below for future reference! Thank you!
This is a long post. I've just finished 1 year of using dating apps and I got some recap information. If anyone can please chime in, I'm not in a good place right now and need some advice some others to keep me feeling like there's still hope!
So I'm coming off after using dating apps for a year (I'm still using it, but this is a year recap kinda post), below is a summary and then some concerns that I wanted to address to get some advice on, if anyone wouldn't mind (mostly for any input from women, but men are welcome to chip in too).
So let's start with a recap.
1.
I spent 1 year on dating and only ended up with 1 date and ZERO gf's LOOL, across maybe 100 matches. Okay this is kinda sad. So I also had roughly 100 matches right, but let me explain something about matches. Matches are COMPLETELY different if the MAN puts the effort in I noticed. Women treat the men as garbage if they're not attractive. Almost like the women matches just to say "haha, you're ugly", I'll explain why in point #2. For some reason I just can't find a gf... meanwhile people are popping out babies as easy as they breath the air outside XD XD
So a little more info for you guys, I'm actually SUPER well manner, and very well put together as a human being, I spent every single day of my life working on myself, I don't drink or do drugs. For some reason, my kindness, loving soul, and well put together self is NOT being portrayed over the dating platform, but it does in REAL LIFE. I need to include here that I am athletic lower body built almost no upper body. Some chest of course cause sports usually build your core a little.
So this brings me to a glitch I found out while using online dating (and I'll touch on this more below), that online dating does NOT work for men that it SHOULD work for. And women can debate this, but I have real world stacking evidence that says otherwise.
Now mind you, I lack some VERY important features, and it might be a little heated to mention here, but
1) I am not built
2) I am not over the "cliche" 5 foot 10 inches tall
3) I DO NOT look like a cliche "kid" in their 20's (I'm young still), but I don't carry that cliche look
4) My name likely is racially profiled, despite America being a work force of ZERO discrimination, it appears we may enforce it in dating though (it would be nice if it was regulated in dating just to see if it is the issue also).
5) I am not thatttt experienced with dating,, but if I can't even find a date, how do I get any experience at all? What do I date my pillow or something?
So with those "red flags", it appears women in online dating present me with 0 likes, like on hinge and stuff. Tinder I sometimes get likes but always 100% fake profiles usually.
2.
I got very rude messages from people on dating apps!!!! I got one girl telling me I'm too short for asking for what I want on my profile! I have the screen shot of this I can post later. I got another girl roasting me for telling her we share the same thing in common... I got another girl roasting me for me telling her I know how to do something that she posted on her profile that she wants another man to know how to do... So it appears from points 1 & 2 here, that women might have an intelligence "gap". I am not saying this in a bad way, I am saying I think women actually have a intelligence loop hole that makes it hard for them to see life for what it is.
DUNNN DUNN DUNN DUN DUN DUN DUN DUN DUN (starwars music)
The concerns...
1.
Women are not dating me despite people who know me IRL see me as very date-able, and a VERY EXTREMELY well mannered and well put together person. I have a top notch personality, like a 5 star hotel. I'm all the things I bet 99% of the women would take a lesser built man for, and date. If that makes sense. I don't have cliche features, big muscles, or a 5 foot 10 inch tall body, but I have the rest, but apparently in online dating not having either of those 3 (cliche features includes swag), w/o those then you're 100% eliminated from dating online pretty much.
Can any women comment here on this please? Why are you not dating me? Or even trying to give me a try? But then you act gooey and weak legs to a man that has muscles (read below for this).
2.
Women are lying on their profile!! This goes into the one above. Women are saying they want a man for who he is, not what he is, and I can even take screen shots if I have to, to show ya'll that women are NOT telling the truth on online dating, they're actually lying 100%. Now let's read #3 to put it all together...
3.
***This concern is why I made this post, so read this part carefully, the rest of the post should make sense why I wrote this whole post to begin with.
All right, so the reason I made this post and why I'm very upset as you can prolly feel from reading this, is that a friend of mine who is BUILT, and muscular and wayyy over 5 foot tall, they're actually 6 foot tall, get's at least 50+ likes on Hinge dating. That's right 50+!!!!!!!! On hinge I got 0 likes over the course of a whole year, and I used the app almost every day/every week. I got matches from my likes, but they never worked out (like I mentioned the trick algorithm above), but NEVER a like back to respond to.
So my whole issue here is, just because a man is BIG BUILT and TALL, that makes him the ONLY valuable man on this planet??? I mean we made life SOOOOO easy nowadays, you only have to work and make money and you can get by with anything in life. You can hire movers to move for you if you have no muscle, etc.
Summary
1. Online dating is a scam, and any other men that are not getting likes, it's really because men are disposable, we're not of any value I believe, unless we do the routine of buying a gym membership and becoming as strong as Arnold you know who. (theory)
2. Women are lying on their online dating profiles. (theory with evidence)
3. I have a GREAT personality, well rounded persona, but I have not had a gf at all in the past 5 years actually, but I'm making this post for only the last year of online dating usage.
/end.
I had more to post here, but I forgot, sorry! This is all for now! Thanks for reading ya'll!
4 Replies
You prob need better pictures. Just because you think you have a great personality doesn’t mean you do. Women want what they can’t have and what will make their parents and friends give them validation that they made a good choice
America is a racist country. Women want tall white men more than anything else. Get buff and get a good job and a nice car and that will help
I'm not a woman, but I am tall and white and at nearly 50 years old have a fair amount of life experience with women. Besides being married to one, I see them everywhere.
From what I'm reading (and I'm factoring that English is not your native language), you sound like you might have some unwarranted expectations of how women should react to you, if fact it sounds like there's an especially obnoxious level of entitlement on your part. Most of what I see here is you taking digs at women for not fawning all over you, or it's the dating app, or maybe the guys who hit the gym.
It's possible you're a great guy with a personality as great as you say and you just communicate poorly here. Because honestly some parts of your post have a very serious creep/misogynistic/date rapist kind of vibe. I and probably all of my friends caught a dry spell or a couple bad dates here and there, but how you talk about it and how normal guys talk about it is a lot different. Yes, you may need to hit the gym if you have a little boy torso.
Or, an app isn't the way to go for you. Back in the day I wasn't "looking" for X type of relationship or looking to list all my traits and wants for random women to flip through. It's more like I'd see a girl at a boardwalk ice cream shop that caught my eye and go talk, "oh you're just her for the summer from Bulgeria?" (that was a great summer). Or at college I'd be in the library and go sit across from a girl reading like, "I know you from my whatever class but I not sure what your name is." Yes it doesn't work out for you a lot of the time but that's okay. At least you know they're real women, can see what they look and act like and you're approaching them on your terms.
An app or like local area chat was good for a few hookups I guess, but again that was long ago. I just can't even remember thinking "i need a gf let me go look for one on Match." Let's just chat her up for a few and see what she's about and go from there. You don't necessarily want a date with all of them that would say yes either.
You’ll meet the best girls at school in your classes. Ask them out at the end of the semester.
