I officially commit to_________ and why.
I had some success with this principle recently. I was at my baby's 1 year birthday party and they were drinking hard core. I had one shot, then I realized I didn't want my kid to drink. So I said, I'm not going to drink anymore.
I got on a plane a week later and almost ordered a drink, but then I remembered my commitment. I told this to my fiance.
I'm realizing today, I don't want to bet on sports anymore. I don't have anyone to tell that would really get what I'm talking about or help me feel committed. So, i thought, why not type it out here in the Psychology section.
There is certainly some psychology going on here:
I'm officially committing to not do any more sports betting.
It's a pain in the ass to deal with the paper works, it's getting me distracted from high value tasks, and it's a waste of time.
My poker game would be way better. My record keeping will be much easier. I'll be calmer and more relaxed.
Thank you!
As far as why this works, would anyone care to chime in? Or perhaps if you're wanting to make, your own commitment that's fine also.
If the mods want to move this to the goals section, I'm ok with that. I was mostly posting here to understand at a deeper level why it this concept works, and why it might not work.
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Maybe it's just the clarity that comes from verbalizing what you want?
I remember years ago reading about a survey of recent college grads. They asked them questions about their goals, and then followed up several years later to ask them about how much money they were earning.
The people who said they did not have any specific goals were making the least on average several years later. People who could verbalize their goals were making more on average. People who had written goals were making the most.
The other interesting aspect is the role identity plays in this type of stuff. Like I've heard that for a cigarette smoker to successfully quit in the long run they have to change how they see themselves. As long as they self identify as a smoker, they may quit for some time but they will typically go back to their old habits. They have to change their identity to see themselves as an ex-smoker to successfully quit in the long run.
6-7 of clubs. You can't lose me pre-flop when I have it.
I remember years ago reading about a survey of recent college grads. They asked them questions about their goals, and then followed up several years later to ask them about how much money they were earning.The people who said they did not have any specific goals were making the least on average several years later. People who could verbalize their goals were making more on aver
As an avid goal setter, I don't want to discourage it. However, the commonly cited Harvard study in the 70s, where the 3% who set goals were making more than the 97% who did not, is a myth.
There is some evidence goal setters are more successful and I can say it's made a huge difference in my life.
Well done.
Goal setting is great.
For me, I generally put them off for as long as possible, but at some point I will wake up and come to the realisation that it's something I have to do.
When that happens to me, I generally always find the willpower to see it through.
When you come to a realisation naturally, it feels like it's your body and mind telling you it's the right thing.
Stay firm, good luck. You're on the right path.
