Explosive Family Dynamics
Tolstoy had a quote about happy families vs. unhappy families, but no one will ever convince me that happy families actually exist. This thread is about twisted messed-up families.
So we're 2 married middle class parents with 2 sons, about 1.4 years apart in age. I'm the young one. My older brother was seemingly perfect to the world. High school valedictorian with like a bogus 4.3something gpa. But he was a complete schmuck to me, I still hate his guts.
I was supposed to play the "black sheep" role, which I did to some extent, but I did ok for myself on my own. I never really liked my parents, but I didn't even know them. Both of us to blame for that.
But as an aging adult, I've come to something of an agreement with my parents. They are exemplary humans in so many ways, and I like that they're both still alive. And now we're closer than we've ever been, although I keep an eye on them. I hate the idea that they will die someday; it almost feels impossible, but I know it's possible.
So I'm in good with my long estranged parents now, but I haven't seen my stupid California brother for like 18 years, and haven't talked to him for about 4 years.
So this thread is about family dynamics! Why the heck can't we tolerate these people who share our genes, I ask you that?!
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Update: my whole family are magatards and I rarely speak to them anymore except in a perfunctory way. It sucks.
lol who is this weirdo from 2010 and where do I go to bury him again.
Btw my brother and me get along ok now, as adult siblings go.
Everytime I find KatySeagull's posts in an old thread like this I marvel at her and miss her more.
lol who is this weirdo from 2010 and where do I go to bury him again.
Btw my brother and me get along ok now, as adult siblings go.
Everytime I find KatySeagull's posts in an old thread like this I marvel at her and miss her more.
lol surprised to see this thread again? I just stumbled upon it. I miss Katy and a lot of others, too.
Vielleicht liegt es daran, dass Familie kein selbst gewähltes System ist. Man bekommt Rollen zugewiesen, lange bevor man versteht, was da passiert. Der „Vorzeigesohn“, das „schwierige Kind“, die Eltern als Richter und Publikum zugleich. Diese Muster verfestigen sich, auch wenn alle längst erwachsen sind. Nähe macht verletzlich, alte Kränkungen sitzen tiefer als bei Fremden. Gene schaffen Verbindungen, aber Monster Win casino keine Anleitung für Verständnis. Und manchmal ist Abstand keine Feigheit, sondern Selbstschutz. Vielleicht geht es weniger darum, Familie zu idealisieren, sondern zu akzeptieren, dass sie kompliziert, widersprüchlich und oft unauflösbar ist.
Nothing worse than explosive family diarrhea! Can’t let grandma make the gravy unattended anymore.
Vielleicht liegt es daran, dass Familie kein selbst gewähltes System ist. Man bekommt Rollen zugewiesen, lange bevor man versteht, was da passiert. Der "Vorzeigesohn", das "schwierige Kind", die Eltern als Richter und Publikum zugleich. Diese Muster verfestigen sich, auch wenn alle längst erwachsen sind. Nähe macht verletzlich, alte Kränkungen sitzen tiefer als bei Fremden.
right??
