AMA About Dating (Las Vegas)

"i have a boyfriend"

let's put it this way - assume you are in a committed relationship and you know under no circumstances whatsoever would your girlfriend be chill with you flirting with other women - even if you had not true intention of taking it beyond flirting and told her "i have a girlfriend"

not a friend/colleague you've known forever where that dynamic could naturally arise in a healthy manner - but a woman you've never seen before, will never see again, and is only talking to you for the express purpose of engaging in a romantic relationship with you

would your gf be ok with that?

would explaining "but i told her i had a girlfriend" help your case at all

this is why ba is saying it's a test - because if she genuinely was not interested, she wouldn't continue engaging with you

whether or not she ignores you or continues to flirt with you is proceeded by "i have a boyfriend" is immaterial

i see my female friends who are very single drop "i have a boyfriend" all the time though to guys that approach them at parties and bars whom they have zero interest in - but they also follow that up by... not continuing to engage/flirt with the man after making that declaration

The other day I was at the grocery store. I was walking through the wine aisle and a cute young lady was studying the wine shelves like she was going to be tested on them. I said, "Wine is so much better as a noun than a verb isn't it?" she looked confused for a second but then chuckled when she got it. "Wine the noun can often PREVENT wine the verb too!" she said, "Yeah, that's true!" and I went on with my shopping. A few minutes later I noticed she was STILL alone in the wine aisle, still studying the shelves. I thought, "What the heck, give it a shot" and went and started rapping with her. Turned out they were running a buy 4 get 2 free sale so she was taking her time to pick out the 6 best bottles. I started rapping with her about business trips I've taken to customers that happened to be wineries and what I learned on the winery tours they gave me. When she finally picked a bottle I said, "I envy whoever you're going to drink that with!" she pointed behind me and said, "It's him!" Behind me was a BIG black guy with dreads below his shoulders, HUGE smile on his face! "Oh my god, I was hitting on your girlfriend right in front of you, I'm the schmuck of the universe!" I said to him. "That's all right, man!" he said without breaking the smile. I just said, "You have good taste bro". He said, "Thanks!" and I walked away.

Side note - the woman had never heard that wine bottles with a deeper punt are considered "the good stuff". I don't even DRINK and I knew that - I was glad she at least got some education out of the ordeal!