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You are the fish

Shut off the chat and then don't put it back on.

Or, learn some discipline. This level of leak is like buying rental car insurance or never bothering to check interest rates and utility prices. This is a game of thin edges, and pissing any of them away is just daft.

Are you playing for $, or are you playing for ego?

I understand what you're saying. But it's kind of like telling an alcoholic just don't drink. Well they would reply it's not that easy. I mean if it was just as easy as me shutting off the chat and not putting it back on I would have done this already. But every time I shut the chat off it last a couple of days and I turn the chat back on. Also, I guess I don't see it as a leak. Because I still do okay at the tables and I say to myself if I didn't chat what I actually do better? I don't see how. Now people say well the bad player will leave the table, but generally they don't. What I've actually found is they try harder to beat me so it might actually work in my benefit to do this. I'm not sure, this is why I continue to do it. I don't know if I should do it or if I should not do it. But sometimes I do feel bad after I make a comment

In order to give up drinking, you have to understand the impact it has on you, and then how to change your mindset such that giving up is possible.

If you can't integrate the $ value behind doing so, please also consider the fact that there's a human being on the end of that call button. You're hurting them, you're hurting your bottom line, and you're hurting yourself.

You might be able to find examples of fish staying after you berate them, but if any of them leave, you're not just costing yourself EV, you're costing yourself the easiest EV you'll find.

Well I definitely agree with that that's why I have a problem online is I don't see an actual human there. When I play live I almost never do it because I look across at the table at some Grandpa fumbling to get his glasses to see what handy actually has and count out his chips and then I actually feel bad for that guy. It's just hard online for me to assume hey there's somebody behind that mouse that could be a grandpa

I agree with you it's generally not that easy in many cases, maybe most so the only way you're going to stop doing this is....

1) You need to be cost a big amount of $$ or opportunity bc of doing this. Alcoholics who stop drinking usually do so bc they've had their life rekt from drinking and it's finally come to a head. This is gonna be harder to see the result of directly just from talking **** to fish in chat online. Maybe if you get really angry and do it live and get the **** beat out of you it will be enough but just from doing it online you probably will never see enough pushback to stop

2) You can really look at the underlying emotion that is making you want to do this and realize you're a slave to it, you actually don't have internal strength to stop doing it so you're weak. This will inevitably manifest somewhere else in your life that will actually cost you the money you're winning in poker

3) If you realize 2 is actually true you can make an internal decision inside your own mind and body that when the thoughts and emotions arise that you want to berate a fish that you won't. If you think/feel about doing it simply don't do it for as long as possible. You might slip up and fall back into doing it some but the longer you can delay and separate yourself and your actions from those thoughts/emotions the less pull they will have on you

And also realize that the ceiling for how good you will ever be in poker is pretty limited in your current state. Top pros don't berate other players consistently simply bc they are running good against them....so you're simply not a top player and don't have much room to improve until you fix this leak. Maybe you don't strive to be that but since you're here asking for help I have to assume you have some desire to improve yourself as a player and human being.

Like I said the ramifications for berating a player online in chat will likely never be bad enough to make you stop the same way getting wasted and driving then hitting another car and killing someone could make an alcoholic stop drinking instantly. So you'll have to make a decision that you want to be a stronger and higher integrity person rather than a weak little bitch that is a slave to all his emotions. And just realize many people in this kind of position don't even realize it's a problem or go looking for help so you're already heading in the right direction

All good points. I appreciate the feedback back.

I appreciate the feedback back