Online dating thread

It wouldn't surprise me if social media fostered the dark triad

I would assume that most people who go into online dating with a youthful exuberance and a fresh mind experience some sort of getting ****ed over. Either by getting played, getting ghosted, getting no matches, or whatever. The mass majority of the content out there is about manipulating the algo and manipulating your image to get the best results.

And sure, many are trying to convey a message of "you need to actually improve yourself in these ways" but many people just do the surface level bullshit to get the most bang for their buck.

Tough times in the online dating pool for most people

Once I reached the sticks of Kansas I found very few women at all on bumble, definitely reinforcing my belief that bumble attracts a higher social class of women

There was also a very nice blackjack dealer yesterday

She spent a lot of time asking me personal questions etc and was very friendly, joking with me etc, ie despite knowing I wanted it face up on doubles she’d sometimes take a look and then if it was bad keep it face down, and then later troll me by pretending a face card was a bad one and keeping it face down so I’d be surprised when it won despite her having 20. Long story short, lots of conversation, she knew a lot about me etc by the end of the night, that I was passing through and going to spend one more night etc

Anyway, after last call I approached her at the last chance available when only one other coworker was there and handed her a gambling addiction card (inside joke because she’d been handing them out to players all night) with my name and number on it

I simply said “you’re fun to talk to and eating alone sucks so if you’d like to join me for lunch tomorrow shoot me a text

She had a look of absolute horror and didn’t respond but took the card. I thought about clarifying that it wasn’t a date (she was very overweight and without curves so this genuinely was not a date attempt) but figured best to just ignore the look (which could have been for her coworkers benefit) and walked away

Getting vibes that I’m now officially an old man. Kind of like when Christian found himself too old to pickup women at bars anymore in niptuck

wonder how much different it was in 2014 compared to now in 2024

I remmber from someone that used tinder backin teh first 2 years it went full live he said if you were in the even top half of looks it was still rather easy to meet up he said he is ugly and back then it was like shoting fish in a barrell for him compared to other people he sees strugling nowadays

I still thikn if you are in the top 5% of looks you are fine but im sure its way harder now than it was the first 2-3 years

today i met the perfect woman at the tables, naturally beautiful, fun to talk to, got along with her really well, she even went to my rival college

but alas she's married :(

I have an 807 credit score.

Should I lead with that on an online dating profile?

you are not saying that there are real people with their credit score on their dating app? please tell me no?

lol I was making a joke, most women would think I was lying anyway.

Only 807?

What are you, a farmer?

McLovin confuses his area code and credit score all the time.

Wholesome Mod AND an 807 credit score? It's almost not fair. How about saving some women for the rest of us.

good first date with a v good looking woman last night. approx 2.5 hours and very good connection, although nothing other than a kiss on the lips after. we both agreed it went well and she said we should meet again.

unknown territory for me because so far, they have either made it super super obvious they are into me and there has been sexy time or it's clear they are very keen, or I'm not at all interested/there's no chemistry so it was easy.

So....how long should I wait to text her? stopped myself doing it when I got home and haven't done it this morning....feels like this afternoon/evening is right?

Don't wait too long or she'll think you aren't interested. I always text when I get home to reinforce my interest and ensure that her interest wasn't just her being nice at the end of the date. Lock up a 2nd date and go from there.

Definitely within 24 hours. You can't keep hem dangling in online dating as if she's as good looking as you say, she'll already have had dozens of messages since your date.

I sent something this pm and got a nice one back so we are all g.

I’m an upfront person and tbh, if I tell them Im keen to meet again after we’ve met and they’re not interested, then that’s fine - I don’t want to be with something who didn’t feel a connection anyway. But I also have always been a believer in keeping them guessing a little bit and not being over the top about liking someone

Idk - it’s all new to me. Not only because am recently separated after 23 years but because asking strangers or people you knew a little onto dates wasn’t a thing where I grew up. Just never happened.

If you have an 800+ credit score, I'd lead with that info on date #2.

Credit scores aren’t a thing in Australia. (Tbh I haven’t heard any non American talk about them), but maybe I should talk to her entirely in Superbad quotes?

Only if she's a classy lady.

You mean generally or in dating? They are definitely a thing in the UK, although no one really talks openly about them.

I’ve never heard them mentioned once. I also lived in the UK for 28 years and never heard them mentioned.

I mean, of course the concept of someone being judged better or worse to lend money to by institutions is/was always a thing but I’ve never once heard an individual mention their own score or even the concept of one

There are agencies in the UK that offer credit records and also "scores" (though they differ by provider), but lenders will generally apply their own proprietary algorithms to decide if they want to lend to you or not.

lead with this

the most appropriate quote is surely to describe myself as 'the Iron Chief of Pounding Vag'

Iron Chef.

The quote is Iron Chef.