Online dating thread
I started this as a thread where 2+2 members could share advice on online dating. I'm 25 years old, and have had trouble finding a GF in person, so I've decided to try the online route.
I admittedly have no game when it comes to girls, as I'm a natural shy person, so I'll mostly be on the receiving end of the knowledge. As I improve, I'll share the wealth. :-)
From poker I've learned how helpful it is to have an advisor to give you advice and encouragement, and sympathize with you when you fail.
For starters, what are the best sites out there for free, and what sites are worth laying the money down for a subscription ? I'm on POF and OKcupid.
'To have seen these strangers’ faces in orgasm—that most unguarded and purely neural of expressions, the one so vulnerable that for centuries you basically had to marry a person to get to see it.
...why such an obviously decent fellow squarely on the side of law and civic virtue was a porn fan, the detective confessed that what drew him to the films was “the faces,” i.e. the actresses’ faces, i.e. those rare moments in orgasm or accidental tenderness when the starlets dropped their stylized “****-me-I’m-a-nasty-girl” sneer and became, suddenly, real people. “Sometimes — and you never know when, is the thing — sometimes all of a sudden they’ll kind of reveal themselves” was the detective’s way of putting it. “Their what-do-you-call… humanness.” It turned out that the LAPD detective found adult films moving, in fact far more so than most mainstream Hollywood movies, in which latter films actors — sometimes very gifted actors — go about feigning genuine humanity, i.e.: “In real movies, it’s all on purpose. I suppose what I like in porno is the accident of it.”
Hecuba’s detective’s explanation is intriguing, at least to yr. corresps., because it helps explain part of the deep appeal of hard-core films, films that are supposed to be “naked” and “explicit” but in truth are some of the most aloof, unrevealing footage for sale anywhere. Much of the cold, dead, mechanical * quality of adult films is attributable, really, to the performers’ faces. These are faces that usually appear bored or blank or workmanlike but are in fact simply hidden, the self locked away someplace far behind the eyes. Surely this hiddenness is the way a human being who’s giving away the very most private parts of himself preserves some sense of dignity and autonomy — he denies us true expression. (You can see this very particular bored, hard, dead look in strippers, prostitutes, and porn performers of all locales and genders.)
But it’s also true that occasionally, in a hard-core scene, the hidden self appears. It’s sort of the opposite of acting. You can see the porn performer’s whole face change as self-consciousness (in most females) or crazed blankness (in most males) yields to some genuinely felt erotic joy in what’s going on; the sighs and moans change from automatic to expressive. It happens only once in a while, but the detective is right: The effect on the viewer is electric. And the adult performers who can do this a lot — allow themselves to feel and enjoy what’s taking place, cameras or no — become huge, legendary stars. The 1980s’ Ginger Lynn and Keisha could do this, and now sometimes Jill Kelly and Rocco Siffredi can. Jenna Jameson and T.T. Boy cannot. They remain just bodies.'
~DFW, of course.
this has a striking parallel to "what will potential employers view my career gambling for a living" conversations have
'To have seen these strangers’ faces in orgasm—that most unguarded and purely neural of expressions, the one so vulnerable that for centuries you basically had to marry a person to get to see it.
...why such an obviously decent fellow squarely on the side of law and civic virtue was a porn fan, the detective confessed that what drew him to the films was “the faces,” i.e. the actresses’ faces, i.e. those rare moments in orgasm or accidental tenderness when the starlet
my weird kink is seeking out just this exact thing and it's getting way easier to find now with the fact that studios and actressses are disaprearing and it's mostly people running their own shops now and doing their own shoots
there's nothing better than real couple threesomes where you can see the real world relationship dynamics of that couple go into conflict as they bring in a third member and you can see certain things about it, like you'll notice subtle boundaries like how the guy can receive from the invitee but not touch, only do oral, or only finishes in the primary etc
it's weird, but i definitely like watching that, like i even watch episodes of playboy's swing house not even to masturbate but just to observe the couple dynamics as they go to the swing house and you see the full spectrum of reactions from loving every minute to intense jealousy (sometimes couples fight mid orgy) come into play, but it's mostly, at least from my highly projected and biased opinion, is they grin and bear it and pretend to go along with being ok with some random dude plowing his wife because meanwhile he's getting strange as well - that's a million times better than survivor or the bachelor and i can only dream of a reality show like that getting that kind of premium production quality would be amazing
i've always wanted to write a rom com where the meetcute is that the guy wants to bang randos at swing parties but is too jealous to bring an actual girlfriend so he hires an escort to pretend to be his wife and eventually falls in love with her - i think i missed the window though, they would probably have made that film with jason segel in 2010 but probably not now
Why Tarzan with Rocco Siffredi and his then new wife, who he's still married to 30 years later, is often listed as one of the best films to watch with a girlfriend.
WTF that's a porno
I wish you told me that before I had my first date with this woman from Bumble...
Rocco taught me all the best moves.
That's what we've been talking about the last few posts.
Tarzan is good if you have a girl who wants to watch a porn film with you - you can see the love on the recently married actor and actress's faces.
I don't mean it's good as a general date night film.
I once took a date to see Norbit (at her request) - just about any porno would've been a better choice than that abomination of a film
"Why did you stop seeing Burdzthewurd?"
"I told him I wanted to see Norbit and he agreed."
"Oh."
She flew into Vegas with friends the day I was leaving and demanded I take a cab from the strip to somewhere way outside the strip to hook up with her
I decided I'd rather get unstuck at poker for the trip, said no, and proceeded to win enough at the Mirage to book a win
I broke up with her as soon as she got back, and she then asked if I could set her up with my best friend
It would've been better if she just stopped seeing me after Norbit honestly
Forgot to post this earlier, but back by popular demand
went on a date with a marine biologist and she had never seen seinfeld and never heard of this:
she is 36
I'm 38 and Seinfeld was just on the edge of too old for Coordi when I was growing up. If you were going to watch self contained short form comedy shows at that time at that age it was going to be Simpsons or South Park
36 is just on the edge of knowing about it.. the fact her colleagues or professors never talked about it ,is suspect though ..
(humble brag incoming) but my baby girl is 25 and loves it.( I introduced her to it) . so I'm going to assume her parents weren't fans either ..
My coworker used to live across the hall from Shoshanna when Jerry was dating her. He said it was very odd to hear Jerry laughing in her apt as he [my friend] watched 'Seinfeld.'
Do we think Jerry was watching the show too?
Could have been the ultimate meta-episode.
I dated a girl who also went to her school on the upper east side .
it was all the gossip.. she had to walk like 3 blocks to meet him up and I think she dropped out mid senior year cause of the scandal.
I heard he dated her for her big "personality".
